Actually, Friday we have our dinner and I think (from what the majority says is best), is to explain to her that we all know Nik’s past, and that we know hers. We don’t want to “ruin” the apparent happiness, but we want to know if and when she plans on coming clean. We will warn her on Nik’s behavior towards that kind of stuff, however being that he already has been in a relationship, it kinda would be worthless to simply leave since they are so serious. I know it’s hypocritical of Nik, but what can he do? Whats happened happened. I imagine he will be shocked, and as his good friends, I am going to assume she will want us there when she comes clean and ask for our support – which will be to just stay. If she is as clean as she seems, and they are as happy as they seem, why ruin it when it’s already too late? We all have issues and problems, she just hid hers and tried to get through it, and I’m sure every night when they sleep, a thousand things go through her head about this. I’ll assume she is scared, worried, and probably depressed. So this would be the perfect opportunity to ask our advice and than gives her a buffer zone to talk to Nik. I think that’s the best choice – because she cannot hide this forever… and I think it’s too late to kick her to the curb.

 

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I'm telling you lexi, don't put her on the spot and make her tell Nik right away, or in front of anyone else. This has to be between the two of them, and I'm sure it's something she's not proud of and extremely embarrassed by. She needs to know that you know and that you won't keep it a secret for very long, but that you have enough respect for her to let her to be the one who tells him, so that she'll have a few days to think about how to best approach the matter.

Best of luck!

 

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If they break up, send her my email.
I bet she is willing to do some freaky stuff!

 

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Sorry if what I wrote is confusing, it's been a long few days with other stuff. In no way will we tell her or demand of her to do anything in any set time frame.


I’m just going to be polite and explain to her that I respect her for apparently changing her lifestyle and I can only wish her the best, however, it should be no surprise to her, about Nik’s feelings on the matter. I will also explain to her our distaste for that lifestyle and how we have no respect for anyone of that nature, however our opinions have been changed and she showed our entire (crew) that yes – people can change for the better if given the desire to. I believe that Nik needs companionship, and I believe she needs Nik as well and that they are perfect together; however, cannot be fully together in comfort unless she lets the cat out of the bag. I will let her know that if asked my recommendation, I will suggest Nik just disregards the past and continues with his relationship because I feel she honestly does care for him, and that people make mistakes. I will tell her that theres no reason to ditch her, because what’s done is done. If she wants, our entire (group) will stand by her side as she explains this to Nik (whenever she feels the best time is), and will tell Nik that we are on her side of this situation and understand why she kept this hidden. Anyone whom changed wants to look towards the future and not the past. My sister and Brittney will be with her before I do and she seems closer to my sister, and my sister is willing to relay this to her. I’m closer to Nik so I’m sure I’ll be asked to take part in this with the time comes. I think this is fair for all and gives her the understanding that we are here for her AS WELL as our friend Nik. Opinions?

 

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How much money and crack would be required for you to sleep with me, Lexi?

 

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My only concern would be after you tell her you know, and that you want her to come clean at some point with Nik, that she freaks out and just dumps him so she doesn't have to tell him. Then you have to deal with Nik falling apart.

Not that you can really do anything, at some point he's going to find out.

 

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"How much money and crack would be required for you to sleep with me, Lexi?"

If you were the son of Bill Gates and Kate Moss, then you might have a shot.

 

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I think she's a gold digger and it's none of your business. He may know everything already, but ignorance is bliss.

 

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Doubt she's a gold digger because she has been paying mostly for Nik from what he told us.


Doubt she will leave him over this - she told my sister that she needs advice on something and wants to talk to her, but than said forget it and maybe another time and trailed off at something shiny.

 

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Yea just tell him .. why you telling her. Your loyalty lies with your friend. She's a stranger. If your man was famous for loving crack-hos for years and you didnt know and later found out that Nik knew all along, you'd probobly be pissed he never told you.


Rezz is right , it is comming off like you want to corner her just so you can express your personal disdain for her past. This is all about Nik. If you tell him and he later chooses to continue on regardless of your opinion on the matter then it's about you and her in as far as her being part of them that disregarded your feelings. Until then it's just about your friendship with Nik and the unwriten rules that come along with that... like leaking any dirty info on the person they dating .