BEIN A CRAKHED IS NOT SO BAD FOR A GIRL AND SHE AT LEEST WORKS FOR A LIVIN INSTEAD OF BEING A STEELIN CRAKHED AND ALSO AT LEEST SHE DOES NOT PLAY MMOS

Finally, someone with useful answers to serious questions!

 

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You making us wait till this weeks episode to hear the rest Lexi?

 

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Well, the first thing I would do is to establish the facts right. Are you absolutely sure that the girl on the website is the girl whom Nik is dating right now? Do their name, birthdate, ID match?

If that facts are established, the next step would be to get to know her better. Become a better friend with her, and she might open up. It will take time to establish trust. I don't think anyone would just open up to others and tell them their hidden past to people whom they just got to know for a short while.

 

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although i do agree with you moong, we are talking about lexi here... getting her to become friends with someone, and well enough for them to open up to her.... i mean... come on now, isnt that a little much to ask?

But in all seriousness, tred lightly here. I've been in a similar situation, and if it's handled wrong you may very well end up loosing a friend. Even if in the end it turns out u were right, for some reason they still hold some unknown grudge against you.

 

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Sorry for the delay everyone. I've had the worst luck ever.

Basically she came to visit me in the hospital and she knew something was awry. She said that we've been acting odd around her and more quiet and my sister has been inquiring about her lifestyle a lot. She said that it's not the appropriate time to talk to us but she wants to call us all together to discuss stuff. Once home, everyone was at work so she spent the day doing the house work and taking care of my dogs while I sat at home drooling like a retarded kid during lunch time. She was very friendly and kept saying she wants to talk to me but doesn't know how to come up with the words, I kinda got irritated and snapped, "just <explicit> say it already and get to the point."

Once everyone was back she took us out to a nice restaurant (her treat), she came clean.

She started it by saying that it has been so great to meet people like us and tho she wishes she had grown up in our 'circle' and how happy she is with Nik. She then stared off into space for a solid 30 seconds and took a deep breath. My sister actually said in an audible whisper "this is it," and Britt kept nudging my leg like I honestly had no clue wtf was going on.

She said that a few years ago she smoked a lot of pot and then some friends got her on coke and then she tried crack. She said she was immediately hooked and between all the drugs she lost her job, once she lost her job she lost her apartment and had to move in with friends. Since she had a drug problem it was hard for her to hold down a job and pay rent and for her addiction, and at a party some guy said he would hit it for 100 bucks as a joke. She said your on, he gave her the money, and thus our lil pals life began to change.

She learned that since she looked good and often got picked up that more money = more drugs, and then came Mr. Undercover Police Man whom busted her. That is where our police pal came in and she served 29 days in jail. She said she saw crackheads in prison all haggled and with missing teeth and she didn't wanna go through that life; however the addiction was there. Once she was out she immediately asked the cops to keep her in or help her out and they got her into a treatment facility. Over 3 months she stayed there, and once she was done she got a job there as a counselor or something talking to crackheads and spazzy druggies. She made decent money and got back on her feet.

She met Nik and has been completely honest about everything except for this one thing which is where she begged for our help. We all acted shocked during this story, and my sister even did that stupid chin shiver thing where she can make fake tears swell. Brittney let out several "oh my god's" and I just gave a few 'woah and wows' in between.

Since we heard the story we really have no opinion on the matter. I like the girl because I got to know her, but I still feel a disgusted to have her around. I feel dirty. She said that in rehab they did testing and she is clean, and she even went to see if she had anything a few weeks ago because she thought she had a pregnancy scare (with nik lol). She said she had testing then as well and is clear. She said that made simple joking comments with Nik like, "I could be a stripper" and he said he would never date a stripper, so she didn't push the issue.

So now the next plan is... how to tell Nik lol. She said she wants us there by her side when she does tell him, but I honestly think that may be bad. In a way, I kinda think that we should talk to him for her because well... I kinda think it would be better.. or have her there but have US tell him and she just sits there and shuts up..

So ... yeah... more opinions? lol

 

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I THINK FIND OUT IF SHE CAN COOK FUD CUZ THEN MAYBE SHE CAN MAKE A GOOD WIFE FOR THAT DUDE OTHERWISE HE WILL BE MARIED TO A CRACKHED WHO JUST MAKES HIM POPTARTS FOR DINER WHICH IS AWESUM (BUT NOT ALL THE TIME AWSUM) AND BESIDES NOBODY WONTS A CRACKHED SITTING ON THEYRE COUCH EATIN POPTARTS ALL DAY. ALSO TELL HIM TO WRITE HIS CERAL NUMBERS FOR HIS STEREO AND COMPUTER AND TV DOWN SO HE CAN GET THEM BACK WHEN SHE PAWNS THEM FOR CRAK EVEN IF HE JUST HAS A CRAPPY WALMART JAMBOX HIS CRACKHED WIFE WILL LOOK AT IT WITH STARS IN HER EYES AND JUST BE THINKIN "MMMM IM GONA SELL THAT JAMBOX AN BY ME SOME CRACK AND POPTARTS!!!!!!!!!!"

See now you're in her problems and is trying to drag you onto her side.

This is why you mind your own business.

 

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Seems to me that Nik has already fallen into the mud puddle, he may as well splash around in it awhile.


It certainly isn't YOUR job to tell him, unless you have some sort of polyamorous relationship we're not aware of.

 

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She should tell Nik in private, not in the presence of his close friends. It would be awkward for Nik. And you shouldn't tell Nik before she does. The worst case is that Nik happens to be reading this thread.

 

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