My son is 5, is in kindergarten, and is the only white child in his class. He's being bullied right now. He's told me that he's reported to his teacher, etc. but it doesn't seem to work, he's still being bullied.

So today I was able to go to school with him (at least for breakfast). Had I not went, I think he would be sitting by himself. ...but I'm working on this. It's really his third full week of school. He'll make some friends, and usually there's haters to go with them.

It may be too early but... I've started to teach him to protect himself. He said he got slapped when he walked into class today by his bully.

I've told my son that if he listens to me, and eats what I tell him to, he'll get big and strong, and one will want to mess with him, it's as simple as that. I've also told him that if he doesn't want to eat veggies now, sooner or later he's gonna get sick of being picked on, and will eventually eat the right foods to get bigger.
In a way, I'm killing two agendas with one. Him eating right, and handling bullies.

I'll let you know how this is working.

 

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Well, his father went to the school yesterday, apparently the teacher knew nothing

So now shes going to keep a 'look out' for it and let the other teachers (music, PE etc) know. She did say if anything needs to be done or anyone needs to be moved, it will be the other child and not my son so thats good.

 

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Is good your husband talked to the right people. Glad things are better. My husband use to say to me, "oh don't be goin over to the school and griping over little things." That use to make me so mad!

 

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Poppy first let me say that I am sorry that this is happening to your son and you The first time my son was bullied (we had just moved to NY) one kid on the bus coaxed another into hitting my son in the mouth. My son got off the bus with a bloody lip. When I asked my son what happened he said,"Frank told Tim to hit me in the mouth and Tim did." I said,"Did anything happen before that?" "Nope Mom I was just sitting in my seat and Tim came up and punched me in the mouth." I called Tim's Mom on the phone because even tho we had been in NY only a month her son had befriended my son prior to this incident and we had exchanged phone numbers. She came to my house immediately with her son and she said she had asked Tim why he did what he did..which was one of my main questions also. Tim said, "Frank asked me to." Simple as that. Frank for whatever reason did not like the super quiet new kid and had someone do his bidding for him. My son never was friends with Tim after that My son was 6 years old when this happened.


A year later was the 2nd time I was aware he was bullied. Two brothers who were quite a bit older than he were bullying him on the bus stop (unbeknown to me) . I was a family child care provider at the time and depending on what time the children arrived at my home would determine how long I stayed at the stop. The bus stop was two houses away from me and I could see my son perfectly from my front window. So one morning I look out the window after just having walked him to the stop and I see my son being SLAMMED FACE DOWN into the mud and snow by two older boys who were brothers. I grabbed the kids I had at the time and ran two doors up. The boys were smiling like Cheshire cats. My son saw me and headed toward me...all muddy and tears streaming down his face. I took him home and washed him up and took him to school later. I notified the bus garage and called the boys' parents after getting their phone number. The bullies' father told me that 'Boys will be boys' and I was LIVID. I apprised all the parents of the children I watched of the situation and each agreed to allow their child to ride in my van each day as I took my son to school. This went on for months until one day my son said he wanted to ride the bus again. The family the boys belonged to suddenly moved from the neighborhood.

I became something of a 'bullying expert'. I read everything I could and I bought videos that I shared with the school. This was in 1993 and the next year the school system adopted a 'ZERO tolerance' regarding bullying.

Bullying is NOT new in terms of humankind. It affects kids deeply. It HAS to be taken seriously and addressed. I am happy your son spoke up Poppy! Let us know how it goes please and hang in there! Truly...


~Murron~

It is NEVER acceptable.

 

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Thanks Murron

One week now and he's had 0 problems so hopefully its being taken care of.

I found out this week that the other child is in Pace as well as the Chess club my son joined

its like hes EVERYWHERE lol

 

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Tell your son it's ok to defend himself.

I used to get bullied when I was a young 'un. Finally he pushed me over the edge and I beat the crap out of him.

Problem solved.

 

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Poppy I hope things are still well Truly...


~Murron~

 

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TOS Trolling

Thanks to my nurses hrs type schedule, I was able to join my son for breakfast at his school some days. During those days, I was his 'hero'. You can tell that look in his eyes, it's awesome.

Anyway, I helped him make friends with the kids in his class. He says his "bullies" don't pick on him no more.

Last Friday, I went to the zoo with his class (parents were allowed to go if they they'd like.) I went, and provided snacks during break, helped lil ones see the animals, etc. In the end, they loved me, as well as the teacher, for helping out.

In fact, the "bully" that slapped him, hugged me today.

Nothing is better than when your child looks at you like you're his hero.. nothing.

 

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