I know most parents here have wee ones. This question is for those that have kids a bit older.

How old were your kids when they first encountered a bully? My son is in 3rd grade (8yrs) and he is dealing with a bully and 2 of the bully's friends. We are going to see about getting him transfered to a new class but this really surprised me. I know they all have to deal with it sometime, but in 3rd grade? I would have thought 5th or 6th at the earliest!

My son loves to learn, he was looking forward to 3rd grade and cursive writing and multiplication tables. Now it's excuses to stay home and "I don't want to go to school."

 

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That really sucks. I can't believe they want to change your son out of his class rather than have the bully disciplined and put elsewhere. A couple of 3-day suspensions would probably help that out, if you ask me! No parent is going to want to deal with that on an ongoing basis, maybe they'd actually teach their kid something positive and completely discourage any further bullying.

 

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Well, my son told us he moved desks a couple weeks ago. That was because of this other kid bullying him. The school has told us nothing at all. We heard all of this from my son, and he's not one to make up stories, and I believe him all the more because of his not wanting to go to school.

 

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I would completely believe your son as well. It's not normal from a kid to go from enjoying school to not wanting to go unless something is very wrong there.

 

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I would be at school raising holy hell about this. Having your kid bullied by his classmates is certainly not conducive to learning. I'd be demanding that the bullies be removed from the room rather than the child that has to endure it. It's not fair to the good kid to have to make allowances for kids who aren't disciplined enough to mind their manners.

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Smaller classes and a system that actually likes departmental involvement can curb most bullying issues .. sadly the public school system ruins counter to this

 

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this

 

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But my precious little bully has rights! You can't keep him from classes!

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In the litigious American society the school can't possibly do the correct thing without being sued, and losing.

 

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our son handled it himself when he was in 2nd or 3rd grade


This boy was messing with him in the cafeteria. He said the boy kept trying to take his food, and other things. Well, it continued out to the play ground. Our son towered over this kid, but he had to prove he wasn't afraid of our son.


Finally Patrick got tired of it, turned around, and asked the boy (willis) to leave him alone. Well, Willis wouldn't stop tormenting our son. He went home with a shiner that day. Our son was in the principal's office when we were called to the school. He never got into much trouble because two teacher's witnessed the whole thing on the playground. they were on their way over to the boys, when Willis ended up on the ground.


Probably not the way to handle things, but Patrick never had anymore problems from Willis.


It's a good thing it takes alot to upset our son, because he is big enough to really hurt someone in a physical fight.


Good Luck with this problem Poppy.

 

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Sounds about the same as I had at a similar age. Punched the annoying kid in the eye and that was the end of it. Same deal too, I was much bigger and no idea why the other guy was bugging.

Had pretty much the same scenario happen once in high school. One punch and next week we got along just fine. Napolean issues or something

 

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