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Jorrdan  Posts: 293
Registered: 2001-10-19 07:31:24
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I generally do not have sex on a first date because, by nature, I'm a bit reserved until I get to know you. That said, I'm of an age that if we are dating and there is chemistry, I see no reason to prolong intimacy once we are both comfortable with each other. Has nothing to do with "marriage", "respect", etc. for me. Just chemistry. 
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Halloweve posted:
Yeah Sweeny it's the first date  That's why I was thinking..if she has sex with you on the first date..maybe she does all the time? Would that matter down the road..or would she just more than likely be booty call date girl?
And someone said this is how women judge one another..not men..really? I have guy friends that are more than blunt with me..they are more than happy to have sex the first date..but seems like they would never consider this a serious contender for more.
If the girl can atleast hold out for a few dates..she gets a little more respect.
I am older than alot of you so maybe this is just old fashioned talk. Things change.
no. having sex on the first date isnt a game changer.
not having sex on the first date is more likely to be a game changer unless the chick is really fucking cool and or super model gorgeous.
so if youre planning on not putting out, you better be able to hold your end of the conversation as well as be entertaining as hell.
if we go out a lot, have fun, enjoy chatting and have sex every time, eventually it turns into an exclusive dating arrangement at which point you start to evaluate whether or not you would consider living with the person. shes a ton of fun on dates and the sex is, at least, decent but would i want her around 24/7. this is when the decision about marriage comes into play. if its 2 months or 3 years down the road its irrelevant. having sex on the first date is irrelevant by this point.
if your friends are saying theyve made up their minds about marriage after the first date then they are probably gay.
or clingy emo types who want their day of being a prince standing at the alter.
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Date Posted:
1/1/00 12:00am
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Jorrdan posted:
I generally do not have sex on a first date because, by nature, I'm a bit reserved until I get to know you. That said, I'm of an age that if we are dating and there is chemistry, I see no reason to prolong intimacy once we are both comfortable with each other. Has nothing to do with "marriage", "respect", etc. for me. Just chemistry.
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Tipztoe  Posts: 1,775
Registered: 2004-3-1 17:53:43
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IMHO posted:
GrilledCheez posted:
What if she says no so you have sex by yourself? What if you have sex by yourself right in front of her?
Someone should try that sometime.
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Modeeb Title: A Ghost In The Machine
Posts: 1,258
Registered: 2002-4-19 10:48:36
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Every woman must at least be seduced twice, first mentally and then physically. This is why I said I prefer sex on a second date. We have had some time to establish interest, desire or curiousity. A woman who holds out will lose me without some good reason.
I have dated many older women and some have problems because they have gone through menopause and/or anxieties of one form or another (i.e they may not feel they as beautiful-attractive as they once were). It is better to help them bridge their fears to love-making. Also some women have not experienced orgasms with a man and they require special attention. But, everyone needs to be honest and communicate. If I suspect games, I'm on to the next woman pronto. I enjoy intimacy with someone I have established a connection with. It makes for better higher quality more-finessed sex.
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If they are dating me its a good idea if they are dating someone else no
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imaloon1  Posts: 674
Registered: 2003-9-15 07:19:53
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cabbyman posted:
pwnt!
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Phlegm573 Posts: 528
Registered: 2002-6-12 17:43:34
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In my experience, sex on the first date leads to the woman not sticking around. Either she doesnt respect you or she feels embarrassed, or some combination thereof. Or she might just be in "hit it and quit it" mode. (read: bf is out of town for the week)
I'm one of those weenies who never wants to just h&q so.... while sex on the first date might be good in theory... it's not so good in practice if you want her to stick around.
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ZartanAround Title: Torpid Curmudgeon
Posts: 768
Registered: 2004-2-6 20:54:09
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THIS THREAD IS FULL OF SEX EXPERTS!!!
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Cawlin Posts: 1,759
Registered: 2005-2-22 07:58:42
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Phlegm573 posted:
In my experience, sex on the first date leads to the woman not sticking around. Either she doesnt respect you or she feels embarrassed, or some combination thereof. Or she might just be in "hit it and quit it" mode. (read: bf is out of town for the week)
I'm one of those weenies who never wants to just h&q so.... while sex on the first date might be good in theory... it's not so good in practice if you want her to stick around.
If the woman is in the mood to H&Q, she's not going to wait around and date you another time or two, she's going to go get laid with someone else on the first date. If her boyfriend is out of town for the week, this is doubly true. If you hit it on the first date, at the very LEAST you got laid out of the deal.
If she's embarrassed after having sex with you on the first date either one of two things are true:
1) You weren't a very good lay and she's embarrassed FOR you.
2) She's got "issues" and you're probably better off without her.
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