__Bonk__ posted:
This last woman I went out with when I said I often go to bed at seven immediately said, "But you texted or emailed me at 800PM!" Already looking for lies
This is an opportunity. As someone else mentioned, you can say so many different things here, and you don't have to lie.
The truth: I'm addicted to skyrim.
A different truth: I was being naughty
(if you can't pull it off, don't)
Another truth: I was thinking about you. (you wouldn't have texted otherwise)
ect...
Allstarslacker posted:
There's no reason to lie to a woman unless you're afraid of her.
If you're afraid of her you probably shouldn't be with her.
Theres no reason to lie to anyone unless you're afraid of yourself.
If you lie, exam your reasons. Was it a gut, immediate reaction (as to an accusation)? This is normal but maybe it indicates you respond too fast.
Are you lying because you're ashamed? Why did you act that way in the first place? If you would act that way again, stand up for yourself: "I acted on the information I had and maybe it turned out wrong, but we learned and moved on."
When it comes down to it, a lie is about the person speaking it. Rarely are we justified in lying to protect someone, because we rob that person of a legitimate choice. If you lie to save a relationship, it has already ended because you know either she can't be trusted with the truth, or you messed up so bad that you betrayed the partnership.
"Why are you friends with a stripper?" Should not be responded to as, "she's not a stripper!" Or "she's not my friend!"
Try, "because I am worthy of her friendship. Because I choose my friends on the content of their chaacter, not the color of-- erm, the profession they choose!"
At the end of the day, anyone not worth telling the truth to is not worth dishonoring yourself over.
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