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Hawkson  Title: I AM AN ASSASSIN (SHH)
Posts: 1,791
Registered: 2001-10-23 22:57:09
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Second_Chance posted:
If you tap that ass, you'll likely go home with a juice box. Win/Win
hahah.
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Cawlin Posts: 1,759
Registered: 2005-2-22 07:58:42
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Single moms are tough if you're looking for a relationship.
As the man, you will always be #2 or #3 in the relationship. You will never be #1. This not to say that you have to be #1 all the time, or should expect that in any relationship, but you will ALWAYS be a second consideration beyond the child or children.
Now I know that all parents are going to say "kids always come first!", and of course that's true, but that's not quite what I'm talking about.
A single mom will likely be of the mindset that it is her and her child(ren) vs. the rest of the world. As the non-daddy male in the picture, you will never REALLY be anything but a part of the "rest of the world".
The mom will second guess you before her child(ren). You will have limited, if any authority when it comes to raising the child(ren), your own personal desires, wishes, and life in general will always be a lower priority than those of the kids and the mom.
Now, if you're just looking for some fun between the sheets and you're both on the same page about having non-committal sex, sure, go for it! But be aware of the issues with a possible relationship if you try to go that route.
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Date Posted:
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FineYoungCannibals posted:
single moms are used meat, walk away
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Former_Camilla  Title: Official Team Canada Cheerleader!
Posts: 189
Registered: 2001-3-11 13:54:39
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Date Posted:
1/1/00 12:00am
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Cawlin posted:
Single moms are tough if you're looking for a relationship.
As the man, you will always be #2 or #3 in the relationship. You will never be #1. This not to say that you have to be #1 all the time, or should expect that in any relationship, but you will ALWAYS be a second consideration beyond the child or children.
Now I know that all parents are going to say "kids always come first!", and of course that's true, but that's not quite what I'm talking about.
A single mom will likely be of the mindset that it is her and her child(ren) vs. the rest of the world. As the non-daddy male in the picture, you will never REALLY be anything but a part of the "rest of the world".
The mom will second guess you before her child(ren). You will have limited, if any authority when it comes to raising the child(ren), your own personal desires, wishes, and life in general will always be a lower priority than those of the kids and the mom.
Now, if you're just looking for some fun between the sheets and you're both on the same page about having non-committal sex, sure, go for it! But be aware of the issues with a possible relationship if you try to go that route.
As a single father, I actually had to tell a girl recently (last week actually) that while my child is extremely important to me, I also have needs that need to be met and that sometimes, she isn't "always #1".
Both her and my child will need to learn to adapt to each other.
For me, saying that you're choosing one or the other before knowing what's going on, is a grave and naive mistake.
With that said, any relationship can work if the people want it to.
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Danger!
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Dark_EternalFF Title: Official ACF Turd
Posts: 1,838
Registered: 2002-11-8 22:44:06
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Date Posted:
1/1/00 12:00am
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Hit it
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Cawlin Posts: 1,759
Registered: 2005-2-22 07:58:42
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Former_Camilla posted:
Cawlin posted:
Single moms are tough if you're looking for a relationship.
As the man, you will always be #2 or #3 in the relationship. You will never be #1. This not to say that you have to be #1 all the time, or should expect that in any relationship, but you will ALWAYS be a second consideration beyond the child or children.
Now I know that all parents are going to say "kids always come first!", and of course that's true, but that's not quite what I'm talking about.
A single mom will likely be of the mindset that it is her and her child(ren) vs. the rest of the world. As the non-daddy male in the picture, you will never REALLY be anything but a part of the "rest of the world".
The mom will second guess you before her child(ren). You will have limited, if any authority when it comes to raising the child(ren), your own personal desires, wishes, and life in general will always be a lower priority than those of the kids and the mom.
Now, if you're just looking for some fun between the sheets and you're both on the same page about having non-committal sex, sure, go for it! But be aware of the issues with a possible relationship if you try to go that route.
As a single father, I actually had to tell a girl recently (last week actually) that while my child is extremely important to me, I also have needs that need to be met and that sometimes, she isn't "always #1".
Both her and my child will need to learn to adapt to each other.
For me, saying that you're choosing one or the other before knowing what's going on, is a grave and naive mistake.
With that said, any relationship can work if the people want it to.
Maybe it's a mom thing, but I've spent the last 12 years in two separate (but not simultaneous) long term relationships with two separate moms. In one case the father wasn't in the picture at all, in the other, the father was active in the child's life but not living locally.
Everything I said above was a common occurrence between each of those relationships. I won't make the mistake a third time.
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Anebriated  Title: I should be reading a book
Posts: 650
Registered: 2003-1-27 21:26:11
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Date Posted:
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you should probably become her friend, and in a drunken moment, give way and sleep with her. then, secretly fall in love with her while maintaining the facade of a casual relationship. then break up with her when you know your predicament. then sleep with her again.
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Anebriated Title: I should be reading a book
Posts: 650
Registered: 2003-1-27 21:26:11
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Date Posted:
1/1/00 12:00am
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Lynea posted:
Perhaps you should ask what she's looking for?
you're allowed to do that?
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Former_Camilla Title: Official Team Canada Cheerleader!
Posts: 189
Registered: 2001-3-11 13:54:39
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Date Posted:
1/1/00 12:00am
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Cawlin posted:
Maybe it's a mom thing, but I've spent the last 12 years in two separate (but not simultaneous) long term relationships with two separate moms. In one case the father wasn't in the picture at all, in the other, the father was active in the child's life but not living locally.
Everything I said above was a common occurrence between each of those relationships. I won't make the mistake a third time.
It's not a mom or dad thing to me, it's more of a naive mentality thing. For some stupid reason, single parents believe that they should put their children 100% before themselves, no matter what.
Even if their child is being an unruly brat, intentionally trying to ruin their parent's relationship (assuming they are old enough to know) or the parent believes that their child is somehow a hinderance on their relationship even at pre-early stages, the parent believes for some reason that they're in the wrong (take that as you will).
Being a single parent is not the end of the world. People need to get over that.
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