I couldn't agree more. Things are different now. As a tank, I no longer run the group, as was expected of tanks prior to Cata. I actually really love this, I can now sit back and let the dps classes work out CC before I need to fulfill my role, which is absorbing damage. In heroics, I simply wait for the dps to sort out who is CC'ing what, then I pick up the mobs I'm supposed to. This suits me just fine.
I also die a lot more now. This is in part because of the relative level of difficulty of the new content, but also because of the difficulty of everyone relearning their classes. I always feel a special kinship with my healer, as we preform unique roles, so I identify with the struggles some of them might be having. I really feel that a lot of the challenges faced with the new content can be resolved by having DPS that understand that they are capable of doing more than just damage. CC'ing just one mob in a regular instance can save a ton of mana for the healer which could save everyone down the road in an extended fight.
I believe that everyone is dying a lot more. But that was expected, wasn't it? We are trying to do content in gear that is, for regular dungeons, equivalent to about iLevel 170, or heroics in gear eqiuvalent to iLevel 187 or 200. Bosses feel like raids. Random heroics are taking over 2 hours to finish.
Everyone needs to remember that as gear levels slowly rise, things will get progressively easier. Yes, it's hard right now, a week after the expansion. But this is not how it will always be. People will slowly but surely get better gear, and the heroics will get simpler.
Those of you that tend to have very little patience should quit WoW until March. You cannot expect to finish an instance without deaths in 20 minutes. You cannot rush. You have to alter what your role is expected to do. Initially, I had a ton of trouble with breaking CC, unused to such a concept as a tank. I'm still sorting out which classes can CC which types of mobs. In WotLK, I was expected to tank and hold everything, and that was pretty much it. It seems to me that every class now is expected to use all of their abilities and to use them skillfully in order to succeed.
Two years from now, on the eve of the next expansion, you can be sure that heroics as they exist now will be just as easy aoe Tank-n-spank completed very quickly. But at this moment, everyone needs to slow down, and relearn their classes. And be willing to accept death. Believe me, if you aren't yet doing heroics, you'll need to learn patience. (As an example, I ran H Shadowfang Keep tonight, and we died about 8 times on the second boss, trying to sort out his mechanics and his abilities. It took the whole group talking it out after each death to figure out how to win. When we finally did, man, did it ever feel great. I actually felt heroic.)
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