@ Korrigan and Kewk
If *I* were in a group with either of you and you rolled OS against me rolling MS for an item, I would know, because of this thread to ask "nicely" about it.
However, I honestly think you guys are expecting far too much when you expect someone to ask nicely for the item.
Consider as an example the case of a pure DPS class with no other option for an off spec item, if they roll need on the item is it not assumed they would actually need it for main spec?
Additionally, given the prevailing attitudes in WoW, I can understand why you'd hit need for OS pieces and let the chips fall where they may pending a (polite) request from someone who rolled for it as MS, however, you have to remember that the same rule by which you assume (correctly) that few people would have the manners to ask "politely" for an item they were rolling for MS applies to those who would roll "need" for OS items and never give a rat's ass whether someone needed it for MS.
In other words, if most people douchey enough to be crappy about it and say something like "Really?", most people are also douchey enough to not care if someone else needed it for main spec.
For this reason, I usually try to roll "need" on an item for off spec only after either a) posting to party chat "Anyone mind if I need that?" (when it's obvious I'm rolling as OS for it) or b) if nobody has rolled "need", and I do need it for OS, I will roll "need" on it without asking.
The way you two talk about it, you've created a self fulfilling prophecy. You're basically committing a passively aggressive act (rolling need on an off spec item regardless of whoever else might need it for main spec), and daring the guy who needs it for main spec to ask you "nicely" for it in return, at which point you will refuse them if you don't like the way they asked you about it. Think about it - it's not exactly a friendly way of acting.
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