I was on the PTR helping another prot pally with his spec when he says "AFK, angry fiance!". That brought to mind a number of married gamers I know. One had to quit or face a divorce, he's now back gaming on limited hours. Another can only game when his wife's not home and will literally unplug his computer and run from the room when she pulls in the drive. She said she'd rather see him go to strip clubs than play WoW. On the other hand I know a lot of married couples who game together or have met in game. It can be a good combo but sometimes if one raids ahead of the other, the other gets upset.


During the Warth midnight party I had put together a list of how to get exalted with your significant other, such as picking up your socks, doing the dishes, folding laundry, making dinner and so on. Making sure things are smooth at home can smooth your game time. So how do you appease that special person in your life who doesn't understand (or maybe shares) your gaming addiction?


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If WoW is the basis of conflict in your relationship there are MUCH worse things going on.

You're probably playing WoW to escape those things and that's why your spouse is focusing on it.

Grow the f*ck up and prioritize your life.

 

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Pretty much this -- if your significant other is mad because you are playing WoW, you've already done plenty of other things to get to this point, and WoW is just another symptom of the disease.

 

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I'm curious if either of you guys are married?

 

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My wife and I both played WOW. My wife being much more of a raid then I ever was, would be the one playing WOW to the wee hours of the morning. I would be the one getting frustrated that she was going to be playing for a couple more hours. Many night's I went to bed alone cause she was still raiding.

For us it all evened out cause I would do other gaming type stuff and stay up late or be occupied when she wanted me to do other things.

 

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I was on my PVP home server helping a friend with her new toon when she says "AFK, hubby aggro..." That brought to mind a number of married gamers I know. One had to constantly do "favors" for her husband, like gaming was some evil vice similar to a nuclear-powered vibrator. Another will only game when her husband's at work and will literally unplug and hide her laptop when he pulls into the driveway. He said he'd rather see her performing in Vivid films than play WoW. On the other hand, I know lots of well-adjusted married couples who play together or who participate as a family, much like baseball games or Wii or going to the park. It can be a good family sport but sometimes if one of the wives I know has raids when the husband gets horny, she will end up banished to the couch for a week.

During a forum discussion I had a few months back, I collected a list of how to max out faction with your life-partner, such as picking up his socks for him, making sure the dishes are done before he gets home, doing laundry while he's playing games or watching football, cooking something that is edible, washing his car on weekends, not screwing up his mirror adjustments when you drive the car, etc. Making sure things are smooth at home can smooth out your game time. So how do you deal with intransigent, overbearing, smothering SO(B)'s who don't understand your gaming hobby?

 

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Can't speak for Arc, but, yes, I am married. My wife plays WoW too, but not nearly as much as I do. We both raided during Wrath, but since Cata came out she's been much less interested in playing. Not only that, but we've got two daughters that occasionally play and they use both our accounts.


So, long story short, I am married, and I stand by my post. I enjoy playing WoW on my days off, but it's not the only thing I enjoy doing. We go to the store together and do other things too...wait, why am I defending myself?

 

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Come back when you have a wife that doesn't game and tell me how well playing MMO's works out if you put in the time sink it takes for raiding. I'll be willing to bet it causes some sort of strife. I'm pretty lucky in that she doesn't care if I'm gaming but maybe that's because I only get on after I hang out with her and the kid all day and I play for 2-3 hours at night. If your wife is mad at you gaming you probably just need to pay more attention/hang out with them more and they won't care. A lesson far too many of my friends have learned the hard way and been put on lockdown, ghost style. Wives are like chia pets, gotta water that sucker or it wont grow. Cha-Cha-Cha-Chia!!

Everyone I know that plays WoW and has a spouse that doesnt has felt the burn at one point. The key is to know when it bothers your spouse and to change your habits before its too late. I have also seen a fair share of marriages crumble over the years because of online gaming (not specific to WoW).

To be fair.. the internet in general has been a dagger in the heart to the institute of marriage.. from singles sites, to instant messenger ,to Facebook give some people enough rope and they will eventually hang themselves!

I'm happily married, and still played a lot of WoW while married - even after the first kid. There were times when I quit a group with "Sorry, gotta go. Wife aggro.", but that's a comment made in jest. Most gamers' hubbies know who they're married to and accept it if not exactly enthusiastically.

Oh, I'm still happily married - just the number of kids and the playing WoW have changed. Not because of spousal aggro though.