Yeah, I agree with Lynea. Let the school director know that you are not happy with the care this care giver is providing. My daycare would never let something like this happen more than once.

If that teacher can't enforce discipline, she shouldn't be teaching.

Silver

 

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Yikes. Okay I have to admit I probably would have laughed hysterically the first time around, simply because I wouldn't have been expecting it and it is a rather clever way of getting what you want! I try *not* to laugh when my kids do hilarious (albeit naughty or wrong) things because I don't want them to get the wrong message, but sometimes I just get blindsided and the laughing commences.

However, the second time around there should have been some kind of repercussions, and I'm wondering what the heck these teachers are doing. I don't think you can really punish her at home for something that happened hours ago at school when she's so young, but I might be mistaken. I also would be having a serious discussion with the director. There's just no excuse for that teacher's behavior.

 

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Just a thought... what would happen if the 'spare pair' of panties you send with her is a disposable diaper or a pull up? You could let her know ahead of time that these would be the panties she will have to wear should she soil her other ones. Would that be enough to discourage this behavior?

This might take the responsibility of discipline away from your daycare provider as well, much as I disagree with how she handled this.

My daughter would rather die than have to wear diapers ever again.

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It's not a bad idea but I don't know if my daughter will care if she's in a pullup. I can try.

For now we're doing a couple of things.

- Going to go talk to the director, of course. I'm still disgusted that their short-sightedness caused this problem, and I want to be sure we are working to fix it.
- There will no longer be pink pants kept at the preschool, and I will tell her so. If she hates her change of clothes, she (hopefully) won't be in a hurry to soil the ones she's in.
- Returning to praising her whenever she DOES use the potty, just like when we started training. Maybe taking a step back will help, we never know.
- If she is naughty at school or with the babysitter, she will lose TV privileges for the next day. No idea whether this will work but who knows because she LOVES TV.
- If she is good and does not get in trouble at school or with the babysitter, she can get a sticker. Ten stickers means we can do something fun together, like baking cookies (she loves to do that).

 

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Sounds like a great plan. Good luck

Silver

 

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^What Silver said. Good luck!

 

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well, she came home dry today and everyone (including my daughter) is pretty pleased so far. kudos were had for being good at school today. we'll see how next week goes.

 

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Yay!

 

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