Confidence has nothing to do with what you're good at.

It's being ok with what you do and how you do it.

It's believing you are a valid human being.

The only person you are truly accountable to is yourself.

 

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Just because you are a shrimp who was molested doesnt mean you have to be an internet tough guy Sweeny

 

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Its all about how you were raised.

If your parents always put you up and made you feel like you were valuable then youd see the world that way.

If your parents raised you to feel paranoid or never good enough then thats how youd see the world.

If you see someone looking at you - you can either smile and think "that person thinks im good looking" or frown and think "that person thinks im a freak" or get angry and think "that person is racist"..,

Its all about your outlook.
Im not saying you can change your outlook though, your parents cemented that for you.

 

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I think you overestimate other peoples abilities and underestimate your own.

 

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So the takaway is that Moe knows Bonk has a large wang?

 

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I agree with the rest of what you said, but this is bullshit.

If you want to change yourself, start questioning your negative thoughts. If you think, "wow, that person thinks I'm ugly because they're staring at me." QUESTION IT! "or, do I look good today? Maybe she digs guys like me. Damn, I got it going on. "

It helps if you have positive external reinforcement too though... You know, friends.
Sometimes you do things that you don't even recognize as negative until someone says, "stop being such a dick to yourself! You look fine."

 

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The easy way to gain confidence is to date down.

If you think you are a 7, date some 5s. If you're a 5, date some 3s.

Your instincts will make you treat them a certain way. Pay attention to that. Once you realize what you're doing, start dating women at your level and treat them like you treated the ugly chicks.

 

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I guess that true, you can change some parts of your psyche... It helps to be aware of your own stupid negative tjpughts but the truth is also that a lot of your personality is set in stone from an early age. You can fix it though; i wonder if there is an electve brainwashing clinic?

Also, remember that some people might not think much of you - if you did what they expect, yoyd be a homeless bum. Dont live up to those expectations. Come up with ypur own high value expectations of yourself and luve up to those.