Every person you allow into your life requires you to relinquish some amount of control.

If you'll give yourself to anyone you have no control, but you'll never be alone.

If you won't give yourself to anyone you have complete control, but you'll always be alone.

How do you find your balance?

How many people do you want to care about?

How many do you want to care about you?

Are you being too selfish or too generous?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NmIoZwkqx0Q

This is only true between equals.

Think about it.

 

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Not really.

Even if you can completely dominate someone's decisions you're still going to have to deal with their short comings and other unexpected circumstance you wouldn't otherwise have to bother with.

I don't give them control, I give them access. Totally different.

Nope. If you and a small core of associates have total tyrannical control over an other or group of others, you don't need to worry about that. Your life is only as complicated as the 3 or 4 close confidants you have who allow your tyranny.

You still have control... because you can lock up everyone else, or simply pull a trigger, or whatever else is needed.

There are some "sick" relationships and places in the world.

 

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That access comes at a cost that you don't get to set though. You either pay it and have them, or you don't.

Nothing is free.


Edit for AA: You will never have complete control of another person or group of people, and you will not be able to account for every circumstance you're interaction with them could cause.

Pride goes before the fall.

If you're rich enough like Michael Jackson then you can be surrounded by yes people.


Same goes if you're respected and powerful enough like Saddam Hussein.


Otherwise you can lose control but somethings are easy to give up because you'd do them anyway.

Both of those men were fearful recluses who died pathetic deaths because they couldn't manage the worlds they had created.

I would not say they were in control.

As has been stated often - 'No Man is an Island'.


The crux of maintaning individual cobntrol while also mnavigating the wonderful world of relationships is to realize that there are just so many people that you can actually have effective contact with and then the rest are background noise.


I chose family that I like and a few people outside of family.


I concentrate whatever 'Emo' I have on those few (and they are 'FEW' and after that I look to just loving lovable ME-Me-Me!


Woeksa for my world anyway.

 

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Then nobody is in control - you're either a recluse and have nobody trying to control you or you're letting people boss you.