Realm pride is hard to re-create. You can fake it a bit with longer realm timers, which I favor. I like the suggestion of limiting the timer to RvR zones, but I'm not sure how realistic that is. Maybe logging into another realm before the timer is up ports you to the housing entrance and you're stuck in housing until the timer is up. This would at least let players check on rent or work on templates before the timer expires.
Speaking of timer, I think even an hour is a good start. 5 minutes is too short, even if it couldn't be bypassed. It doesn't need to be ridiculously long, but long enough to help limit the hopping.
The other half of the equation is addressing why people realm hop. Part of it is hopping for relic bonuses or for guaranteed RvR action, and not much can be done to disuade that besides the timer. The other part is that people just get bored and want something different. For that, I feel like it probably has a lot to do with playing in the same RvR zones for so many years.
Give us OF back so we have a change of scenery. (Ideally, do a bit of world changing so that the frontiers connect, but not over an Agramon kind of zone. I haven't looked at the maps enough to see if it would line up, but my inspiration would be to connect the realms at the locations of the portal keeps. For example, MPK in Emain would connect to the location of HPK in Odins through a little valley. Even if this wasn't done and we had to port, I wouldn't care. OF was fun, and it would be neat to go back and have that change of pace.
In addition, make the frontiers more dynamic than once in a while adding a few quest points like the Halloween patches. What if once in a while masses of guards left each realm to meet in combat in some zone. Maybe the dragons leave the epic zones and fly around the frontiers, causing havoc and killing many in their paths. I realize that things like this would require quite a bit of coding, but an occasional change to make things more interesting might help. We already get PvE events once in a while, and this would be along those lines.
I don't think we'll see much of the realm pride that we had back in the old days. Back then, a few Mids griefing Hibs outside of DL was cause for the battle cry to go out in TNN, which was the hub of communication outside of your guilds and alliances. We all raced out to meet the foes in combat, and proceeded to get splattered across the Gorge since they were all purple to us. We were united in the fight against Stungard, Albion (Mythic's darling realm), and our unitemized, low-content PvE areas. That feeling is alive in a few people, but I don't see it becoming standard again unless there's a population surge warranting a break-up of the cluster. Since that can't be relied on, options like the realm timer and other things to keep things interesting are our best bets. That, and showing a bit of respect for your fellow realm-mates so that people actually *want* to play with you in your realm of choice.
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