So much ignorance & arrogance in one thread; it would almost be entertaining if it wasn't so sad.
Play all 3 realms and with any regularity and you'll find it's all the same people in all 3 realms. There are jerks, nice people, elitists, noobs, true experts, self-professed experts who're actually noobs, lots of FoTMers, blind sheep, zergers, leechers, adders, griefers, spies, paranoids who think everyone is a spy, cross-realmers, smack-talkers, scammers, cheaters, exploiters, etc. etc. etc.
The vast majority of people, however, are just normal folks and most of them are quite nice if you have enough social adeptness to not come across as a complete douche when you ask them about something reasonably intelligent. I think almost every person has a little of some or even all of the stereotypes in them; just depends on time, place, and situation.
Try being polite, persistent but not annoying if you don't immediately get an answer, and don't get caught up with the loud-mouth trolls whom are mostly just attention starved drama-queens. They will drag you down to their level in /region and people will think you're a douche and ignore you.
Most of all show people you're not just trying to get something for free off them, but do the work yourself that is expected of you before you head into NF. For example, these days you're going to get ZERO compassion from existing players about leveling and getting geared up. It's gotten so pathetically easy to get to 50 & RR4ish and put yourself into a remotely decent template, that there is NO need to EVER be begging for plat, PLing, etc. You can do all these things yourself on almost any class. Of course best if to choose a class that people want/need, that way you're going to make friends very fast in any realm.
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