I work with children that are fall within the autism spectrum.
It is the absolute truth that no two are the same.
The job that I and people like me do, involves a lot of dedication and hard work but it
pales in comparison with everything that an autistic child's parents do and face each and every day!
You are completely out of touch if you think that you can 'order' a physician to diagnose your child with autism because they have a tantrum here or there at the age of two.
Tantrums are NORMAL at the age of two.
People with autism run the gamut from VERY verbal to no language and everything in between. But one thing they ALL have in common: problems with social communication.
Social language is not the same thing as correct language.
It includes body language (use of eye contact, hand gestures, body stance, etc.), pragmatic language (socially meaningful use of language), idioms, slang, and an ability to modulate tone, volume and prosody (ups and downs of the voice).
It also requires the speaker to correctly decide which type of speech is appropriate in a particular situation (polite at school, loud with friends, etc).
All of these skills presuppose an understanding of complex social expectations, coupled with an ability to self-modulate based on that understanding. People with autism generally lack those abilities.
The child that I work with most closely is extremely bright

Tho I am not at liberty to discuss him, I will say that our entire school day is spent being 'mindful of correct language AND social language/cues'. I have not done my job well if I have not 'taught' him what social cues mean, what is appropriate and not appropriate.
You might say that we have all have that 'training' in one fashion or another on the road to adulthood.
This is different. This is constant. This is unrelenting.
The lessons and prompting never end and my warmest thanks and admiration go out to all their parents who handle everything so graciously.
Truly...
~Murron~
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PEACE...
it means to be in the midst
of noise, trouble and strife
and still be calm
in your heart.